Actual Life at 30 vs. How I Imagined My Life Would Be at 30

When I was 20 I had this whole idea on how my life would play out. Marriage, babies, real job at a news station… stuff like that. I was under the impression by 25 or 26 and definitely by the rip old age of 30 I would feel like a mature adult.  Well, like most things in life, it just doesn’t go like you planned.

1. Marriage- At 20: I thought I needed to be married by 25. You go to college, meet someone, get married and have kids.  Being from a small farm town getting married young was just the way I thought it went. Well, I didn’t meet my prince charming at college and definitely didn’t meet prince charming back in my small hometown. At 25: I realized it absolutely does not matter what age you get married as long as you’re loving life. So I moved to the city and realized how fun and amazing life could be without being married. After a few years and tons of fun later  when I wasn’t looking I met my perfect man and life changed for the better. At 30: I’m married and at a great place in life.  I’m so thankful I never settled for anything less than the best.

2. Babies- At 20: I thought for sure I wanted 3 kids and wanted to have them by 28. Come to find out you don’t have to have babies by 25! My future husband and I were having so much fun traveling, chilling, and doing our own thing that I thanked my lucky stars every time I got my img_7514period.   At 25: I realized I was not ready to have the responsibility that a child took. Waiting to have a baby was perfect. We got to see so many places and have so many adventures that we never could have had with a baby. Getting drunk at the Hard Rock in Venice, over indulging till 3am in Rome with long-lost friends, tapas in Barcelona at all hours of the night  just couldn’t happen if we would have had a baby. At 30: Our baby is an amazing blessing, but now I’m thinking maybe only two kids. We have a different kind of fun now. A kind of fun that consist of being at our house by 9pm so Bradley can sleep and we can finally just chill.

3. A Real Job- Go figure…I’m a stat… one more person that went to college for A LOT of money, graduated, and doesn’t work in that field. At 20: I thought broadcast journalism was going to get me rich and on TV. hahaha… Blogging is as close to journalism as I’ve gotten. I did work for a bit at a new station and didn’t make enough to support myself so I decided it wasn’t my thing. At 25: I was still trying to figure out what I wanted to do in life. So I went back to school and spent a lot more money. (dumb) At 30: I blog. I am starting a home decor business. I create art.  I finally realized I should turn my passion into a career. I’m lucky enough to not have to rely on a paycheck so I can spend my time starting a business and taking care of Bradley.

4. I Blog- At 20: Never did I ever think I would be a blogger… one of those people who think what they have to say is soooo important that they randomly write it all down for people to absorb. At 25: I thought blogging was for self-important douchers, (and maybe it is).  At 30: I’m blogging. In fact, I have two different blogs. I blog a lot. One is for annoying mom stuff and the other is for interior design and creating stuff. (www.pearlaine.net)

5. Being a Stay-At-Home Mom- At 20: I never thought I would be a stay-at-home mom. I have always been a hard worker, wanted to make a lot of moneyimg_7602 and be successful. Now I’m not saying being a stay-at-home mom is not hard work, because it is. It’s not watching tv all day and chilling, it’s constant and not relaxing. When she naps I clean, do laundry and try to get some stories and creative stuff done. There is no relaxing.   At 30: I’m a stay-at-home mom trying to start a career from Germany. Stay-at-home moms work a lot, they just don’t get paid in money… and I like getting paid in money. When I refinish a piece of furniture or paint a really awesome picture or find the perfect throw pillows for my store I get this excitement that I can not explain. It’s this amazing sense of accomplishment and I LOVE that feeling. I NEED that feeling. At this point in life, being an expat, I am not in the position to go to a job everyday, but eventually I will. I love raising my daughter and know I do a better job than a babysitter, but I love that feeling of making money too. So maybe At 35: I will be a money-making machine and Bradley will be at school.

6. Living in GermanyAt 20: ummmm…. No. I never had any desire to live abroad because I love America. At 30: ummmm. Yes. I still limg_7118ove America, but wouldn’t change the experience of living in Germany and Sweden for anything. Living abroad really opened my eyes to so many different ways of life. Some I like and some I hate. Seeing and doing everything foreign countries have to offer will help me in every part of my life.

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No Tree Christmas Tree

For as long as my husband is playing hockey it is pretty much a guarantee that we will be moving from one apartment to another. Whether we are moving cities or we out grow our apartment the less crap we have to move the better. A fake Christmas Tree is one of those things we just don’t need and I hate the mess of a real Christmas Tree. So what’s a girl to do?  I sat down for a few minutes and thought, “What would Macgyver do?” (You’d be surprised how many times a week I ask myself ‘WWMD?’.)

Obviously, the answer is make one out of yarn and twinkle lights.

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In an hour you can have a no mess, no watering, spread some holiday cheer Christmas Tree!

SUPPLIES

  • Yarn
  • Twinkle Lights
  • Small Nails
  • Small Ornaments

HOW TO

  1. Measure or eye the outline of a Christmas Tree.
  2. Starting at the top hammer nails in the outline of a Christmas Tree.
  3. Then start back at the top and tie the yarn onto the nail.
  4. Outline the Christmas Tree with yarn. When you reach a nail do a loop around the nail before continuing to the next one.
  5. Cut small pieces of yarn and tie them onto the outline where you see fit. As many or as few as you’d like.
  6. Then take the twinkle lights and follow the yarn. When the outline with the twinkle lights is complete start the outline again, but this time run the string across the middle of the tree.
  7. Hang small ornaments and let the tree illuminate your space with warm, cheery vibes.

Final step

Take some fun holiday pictures in front of your awesome new tree!

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Head over to Pear Laine for more DIY activities.

DIY Christmas Ornaments

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Having kids is exhausting and by the end of the day you may need a large glass of wine. No judgement here if that one large glass turns into two large glasses.

And what’s better than drinking wine? Knowing that the more you drink the more wine corks you’ll have to make Christmas Ornaments with!  While many would look at the wine cork as trash you can look at it and see sparkly decorations.

This DIY ornament is a great way to spend a cold winter afternoon with the family. Besides being a fun family activity you are also teaching your kids the importance of upcycling and reusing rather than throwing everything in the garbage.

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Need It! Grass… The Drying Kind

There is a ton of shit that experts insist you “need” when you have a baby. From wipe warmers to glass bottles, the list goes on and on… some of it’s needed, some of it’s a complete waste of money. I received this Grass Drying Rack at a baby shower and thought it was a bit of an eyesore, but turns out it’s amazing!

  • I don’t know why bottles dry so much quicker on the grass than any other drying mechanism, but they do!
  • The flexible grass blades make for the perfect wine glass dryer, too. The blades provide more stability than just sitting it on the counter top.
  • It also comes with different accessories that help with drying. They aren’t absolutely needed, but do help with the small parts of a bottle.
  • The grass comes in a few shapes and sizes and is easy to clean.

Features and Details  boon grass countertop drying rack

  • Low-profile drying rack looks great in any kitchen
  • Perfect for drying items of all shapes and sizes
  • Easily holds items upright for drying while excess water collects in bottom tray
  • Two-piece, easy-to-clean design
  • BPA-free, Phthalate-free and PVC-free